According to this, love is defined as "a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person". There's like, 27 other definitions, but this is pretty much the gist of what love actually is. The other day I was watching an episode of One Tree Hill, and I don't remember what season it was, but it was during the scene where Brooke is talking to Lucas during their post-break up session. It was after a ball, where Lucas's basketball coach was saying how he loved his wife so much and something related to basketball. After that Brooke asks Lucas, "Do you think love like that exists anymore?" And it really made me think, because nowadays, I hardly see anyone feel that strongly for something they "love" very much.
Marraige is supposed to be a celebration where a man and a woman bond until their death. Yet, according to divorce rate statistics, almost 50% of all marraiges end up in divorces. Thats HALF of the families. Plus, there's also the couples who don't want to get a divorce for other reasons, yet they don't love their spouse. This is so confusing, because the people are supposed to LOVE each other, yet they treat their serious bond as if its nothing.
Isn't love supposed to be passionate? When you love someone, aren't you supposed to love them, and see yourself in their future and no one else's? Take the book Twlight, for example. The love portrayed in there is so strong that it almost sounds unrealistic. That's an example of what love is really supposed to be. We use the term "love" so loosely now that it's real meaning has faded away.
I'm not trying to be pessimistic and say that love like this doesn't exist anymore. I'm just saying that we don't use love in a way that it's supposed to be used, and we use it very loosely now. It doesn't really make that much of a difference now, because we are high school students and we pretty much use every term loosely, but in the future, we can't just use love as something light. Love is something serious, and it can change your life, either in a good way or bad way.
*update* I'm using Twilight as a reference, and I don't really like the series.
4 comments:
because it wouldn't be a blog about love without a twilight reference...
but yeah it is used really loosely, and no i dont think it exists, not in the way we define it.
I don't think that love doesn't exist. I think that people just really don't take the time to find the right person. Society has gotten lazy and I think that if people actually got to know one another before they got married, they would have a higher chance of staying together. Also, society has gotten more accepting with lying. What I mean is that when people are dating, they may not even be telling the truth about themselves, and when they get married the spouse may be just discovering who the person they just married IS... if that makes sense.
I believe that you are absolutely 100% right that love should be a passionate bond between two people that should only see the other person in their future and no one else, but traditional values are fading sophia... I mean not fading in the sense that people stopped believing in them... fading in the sense that people know they exist but don't necessarily follow them.
I think colin is being a bit too pessimistic about the entire situation... but he's right about the twilight reference... american teenage girls and this book... I don't understand what is so amazing about it... i've read all of them and didn't see it...
The example from Twilight is the essence of what love is really supposed to be. Yet nowadays, we cannot seem to find many couples who are really together because of what we imagine love would really be. Whether it's about money, pregnancy, or any other reason, in many cases, people seem to feel as if they are obligated to get married.
I like your thoughts on this. People exaggerate love these days, and you see it referenced in so many places and so many ways. Althought I believe love is out there, it might be hard to find the true thing. But let's not lose faith!
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